You’ve managed to break the ice with the beautiful woman sitting beside you at the local bar. The conversation is interesting and you’re under the impression that she’s attracted to you. Now how do you get past the introduction stage and straight into bed? I can assure you it is not so easy…you have to get into her mind and seduce her. But how can you do that?
Send out an attractive vibe
By “attractive” I do mean “positive”. And by positive, I sure as hell don’t mean “push over”. From now on, you are going to have to start marketing yourself. Do good things. Say good things about other people. Start listening to what people are talking about and try to figure out what their passions are. You can’t just take a bunch of free tips to seduce women and insert them wherever you wish. You have to build yourself up with a solid foundation and then conquer. Most men do it the other way around, taking a free seduction tip and ruining its effectiveness by sending the wrong first impression.
This is why it’s important to be charming. Charm is the easiest art you can ever learn. The problem most men have is with their approach. They either don’t appear genuine or can’t get the timing right. You really have to mean the things you tell people and say these things at the right time. Only a few seconds is the difference between a dishing out a compliment and being irresistibly charming.
Just always remember that the most flattering and charming words a man could ever speak are compliments the woman already knows are true. Reassurance is a tricky maneuver, but it works. If it is obvious that she has a nice smile, tell her so. As many times as she’s heard it, she still doesn’t believe it. If you can pull this off without being slimy, you are in. Trust me.
Don’t listen to your buddies
Let me guess: Your friends aren’t so suave either, right? If you want to succeed, surround yourself with successful people. It’s an advice that most of us have heard before, but people still hang around friends that aren’t good for them.
I don’t care who you are but the “art of seduction” cannot take form if “the art of loser” is nearby. The last thing you want to do is have any woman associate you with a “lame crowd”.
Be “in demand.”
Befriend a woman. Even better, befriend a few women. Female friends are a man’s most valuable reference. You can drive down the street with your Corvette and sport a new pair of designer jeans that accentuates your healthy bulge, but nothing will tell a woman you’re “relationship material” like a hot female friend. You also want to send out the hint that you are being pursued by another woman or women. Talking about how someone likes you and asking for female advice is golden. Women are as competitive as men, and when they hear that interests in you are high, she’ll think you’re in demand. And we all know what women are like when something is in demand, right?
Link pleasure to being in your company
Every guy does everything he can to impress a girl, even if he doesn’t notice it. We are unconsciously trying to make a woman feel good by doing whatever comes to our mind at the time. This usually backfires because men will make fools of themselves. They’ll try and be tough when they’re not. Try and be funny when they’re dull. And they’ll act smart when they’re dumb.
You have to pay attention and discover what it is that this girl you want likes. A woman wants nothing more than to talk about herself. It is always the seducer’s goal to get a woman to expose as much about her as possible, giving him fuel to light the fire later. The more fuel, the bigger the fire. You get my drift?
If you want to seduce women, you’re going to have to start being sympathetic and understanding to her needs and desires. Listening to what she has to say in the beginning stages of seduction is very important. Men have this crazy idea that all women are the same. They apply the same rules and techniques to all women, and this is a BIG mistake. You have to make a woman believe that you care about her and will do what you can to make her happy. Understanding is what women need, and you absolutely must be empathetic to all of her insecurities, downfalls, and self pity. Doing this will empower her and the first person she will reward is you. Trust me.
Delay your knowledge of how to seduce a woman until she’s ready
I don’t care who you are, if you approach a woman with immediate intentions of seducing her, you will rarely succeed.
If you approach a woman with your entire seduction arsenal, she will put up her barrier and it will be VERY difficult to break it down. If you want to seduce a woman you have to do it slowly. Getting women to fall for you is a gradual process that should be calculated efficiently, depending on the woman and which tips to seduce women you know.
Every program I found to be effective stresses the importance of the “pre-seduction” techniques, and for good reason. Ninety percent of the art of seducing is before you start getting physical. The tips to seduce women you will find on the Internet are “closers”, if you will. They seal the deal AFTER you’ve impressed them with whatever it is you offer.
If you’re funny, make her laugh. If you’re rich, show her an extravagant time. If you have beautiful eyes, use eye contact to gaze into hers. Like I said earlier, you have to get a feel for the girl and then over deliver with what she needs with what you do best. It’s something you will have to learn, but when you do I promise you every woman you meet will want to sleep with you.
Don’t expose weakness by trying to please everyone
If a woman thinks all you are out to do is please other people, she will look at you as weak and someone who would compromise their pleasure by wasting time on other people.
When you meet a woman, the last thing on your mind should be “what can I do for her.” If any woman, let alone one that you want to sleep with, gets drift of this, you will be a slave and a push over forever. Saying “no” is extremely effective if used properly. Using this in the beginning stages of getting to know a woman is crucial. Saying no shows a woman that you are not there to just sleep with her; you are there to find a woman that is compatible with you. If you just agreed to everything they ask of you, it becomes pretty obvious that you are either a) someone that people walk over or b) desperately looking to impress her into sleeping with you.
Never reveal yourself to a woman. You want to keep the mystery alive for a while, especially in the beginning. If you tell her all during your first meeting, they’ll be nothing for her to wonder about. Women wonder a lot and are intrigued by the unknown. Tell her only the things she asks you about, and don’t LIE!
Lying will get you into a whole lot of trouble. It never works and you can take this advice from someone who has been caught in a number of lies. Worse, if this is a girl you end up falling in love with, the wrong lie could ruin any chance of a future with her. Not only that, but women talk. If you get a reputation as a liar, you will be blacklisted by all women.